Do not sing the tango
2008 30 September 2008
This is something I learned a while ago and stayed in a talk that inadvertently listed as "not to be singing the tango". It is everyday, meet someone, regardless if it is much they do not see it, and then the famous question, how you doing?, The common response is automatic and "all clear", but we know that within seconds, some of the two will recite the bad day you had, so slow the bus, or the amount of people who were in the subway at rush hour, airing as a survivor of a problem, when we are talking about something quite normal and daily.
Why we do it? complain because it became a habit and you compete to have more bad luck. One of the places where most is reflected in Web 2.0, as we this "listening" all the time, seeing as we are now, bringing rise to constantly review and accidentally with all that information is created profile as is a person, seeing that it transmits.
The most serious, is not an argument that the tilde normal problems, but the bad image it gives such a person. We do not realize, but one day the bus did not stop, another day we ask and the TV was broken , so on until the person in front of us think "This is a problematic" or "This living on Quilombo" or "Wow, better still long, because this always brings bad vibes, tragedy and others." As entrepreneurs and ordinary people, not the image we want to give anything a bad story that would accidentally buy my friend William, and we think that really goes wrong and we have the right to complain to whoever we meet, or at the place where you can leave an expression of my state.
So reader / friend of mine, as're're there to sing the tango, you must give ahead in life, if something bad happened to you, think of the responsibility that you got on that and how to improve it. Unfortunately as we embedded this custom, is an exercise which we do to end this, but has not condufir to say all the time "I'm great" "that great day" because we would pass for fools to pass first and then some credible, which does not want to happen.
If you think that somehow you can enrich this debate please do so!, I think everyone can do, so are invited to bring their own.
Chan Chan a glass of wine .... please ....
You know that in the Brazilian tourist propaganda (to come to Argentina) they said something like that Argentina is a country melancholy as the tango? Where we were always melancholy Argentines and we had always something to complain about. (It was set as a curiosity).
The other curiosity that said, is that you pay attention in Argentine boys who do not score things, simply memorize ...
[...] Going to say Pocoyo? - There is always something to say. I know there are those who promote "no complaint" as a way to convey optimism, passion, but as this is not the essence of this [...]
In some occasion where I received an email inviting the challenge of the 21 days ... 21 days without doing these 3 things (that we like humans):
1. Express complaints.
2. Gossip or tell stories of others.
3. Lie
And I could not take place for 21 days, but I think it is more lasting without any of those 3 things was 2 days.
Stop lying is not so hard, stop counting things of others are possible, but stop complaining ... that if it is not easy ...
Try saying "I'm fine" when people ask "how are you?" That is a lie (if they really are not good), but then fall into a complaint if you say "because I really do not feel well, it happens this and this. "
The best we can do as noted Joaquin, is trying to go forward and if something bad happened, and tell it does not solve it, it's better to see the positive of the day and say "I'm better" with a smile
Greetings!
Well, I came to this blog, after reading your comment of the trial that made them an employee who had resigned ... the blog of psychology to business ...
I just saw the new post ... but still did not read beyond the title ... but I will do, back then as time off ... and I feel great at first glance what you put ... entrepreneurship (not only limited to the professional ... is really a mega-project-existential compound daily goals, monthly ...)
Returning to the subject of this post is true ...
Take into account the balance between criticism and reason ... the fact it does not complain ...
This reminds me of what should be an unalterable purpose of philosophy, PROMOTE (encourage, create and sustain) and REPORT (see its faults and dropouts) MAN.
Greetings!
Tony